Dear Roze:

I don't know what to do. The boss I had for ten years was an extremely difficult person to work for. She wasn't in the office that much; she did more work from home than any supervisor I've ever had. She did a great job of keeping those of us who worked for her in the dark. She also gave me very little direction or any kind of feedback. She left the company about a month ago. A few days before her last day, she said some very nice things to me about my capabilities and performance and even told me she appreciated all my hard work. I was beyond floored and even though it was way too late to make a difference, it felt good to hear her say those things. It has been about a month since she left, and she has reached out and asked me to come work for her at her new place of work. She said I had all the right stuff she was looking for. I can't deny her offer and compliments are flattering and nice to hear. She said the pay and benefits would be the same, but the work would be more in line with what I like to do. In the past few years, I've been doing some things I would prefer not to do. So, I'm considering her offer because I really like the job description and there's a comfort level knowing what she's all about. I know what I can expect from her. My new boss is nothing like her but I'm still getting to know him, what he's like, and what his expectations are. But I also have something inside of me telling me it may not be a smart move. What do you think I should do?

Tempted to work for old boss

Dear Tempted to work for old boss:

Listen to your inner voice! As much as I understand how nice it is for you to finally hear your old boss tell you the things she should have communicated to you during the ten years you worked for her, and as nice as it is for her to offer you a job at her new place of employment, I would think long and hard before making your decision. Do not forget all the issues you had with her. I would question whether or not she has truly woken up, realizes the error of her ways, and will be willing to make significant changes to her behavior. And although you were told the pay and benefits would be the same, I would make sure you know what happens to your existing benefits. If you have a 401(k) plan, what are your options? Be sure to get the offer with all the details in writing. Regardless of all these things you need to consider, my gut tells me you should stay put and give your new boss a chance.

Dear Roze:

I have what many people consider to be a very boring job. I process tax returns. But during this time of year, I'm popular with a lot of my friends and people in general. Although I totally get it, it irks me the way friends and people I meet don't hesitate to ask me for tax return advice. I don't mind the occasional question or two, but handling these kinds of questions is what I do for a living. How do I tell people I have a limit on how much I can answer about their tax credits and liabilities before it becomes something they need to pay for?

There's a limit

Dear There's a limit:

I believe telling someone you cannot answer his/her question(s) is easy. The hard part is deciding when you need to say that to someone. I imagine there are some tax questions that are easier to answer than others, and I see nothing wrong with providing individuals with answers to some basic questions. I also imagine there are some very complicated questions you cannot begin to answer without having a lot of information a casual discussion cannot provide. Only you know where you need to draw the line. I, too, struggle with this issue from time to time, and as much as I would like to say I have a magic formula I can share with you, nothing could be further from the truth. I go with my gut and handle each person and his/her question(s) on an individual basis.

copyright 2014 Rozanne R. Worrell

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