NORFOLK, Va. (WVEC) -- A judge denied bond for a father who is accused of murdering his 4-year-old son.

Detectives arrested Rayvon A. Messer, 26, on April 20. Messer is charged with Second Degree Murder and Use of a Firearm in Commission of a Felony.

Police said he was responsible for a shooting on April 19 in Ocean View that killed Rayvon A. Messer Jr.

When officers to 9500 block of 19th Bay St., they found the 4-year-old suffering from a gunshot wound. He died at Sentara Norfolk General Hospital.

"That was my grandson, I love him to death. All my spare time was spent with him," said Messer's stepfather, Desmond Sessoms.

Sessoms said Messer was turning his life around after getting into trouble with the law. Messer was charged with the reckless use of a firearm about two years ago.

<p>Rayvon Messer Sr.</p>

"According to what I understand, it wasn't him with the firearm, but that it was somebody else," Sessoms said, "but that doesn't matter, because the worst thing that happened was to my grandson."

Sessoms said the child was about to celebrate his fifth birthday in May.

At Messer's bond hearing, his attorney acknowledged he was dishonest immediately after the shooting when he claimed his son had been hurt in a drive-by shooting. The defense said Messer did not remain dishonest, however, and that the truth was that 4-year-old shot himself while Messer took the garbage out. Messer heard a pop, went into the home in Ocean View, and found his son hurt.

Prosecutors disputed that and said the boy was shot in the chest at a downward angle, proving that the shooting was not an accident.

The commonwealth's attorney's office argued that Messer was a danger to the community and a flight risk.

About a dozen family members attended Messer's arraignment on April 21.

A man who said he was Messer's brother told 13News Now relatives are lost for answers.

“I don’t know because I haven’t really talked to my brother since the incident because it’s tragic. Me talking to him just breaks me down," the man said. “Nobody knows what happened.”

Relatives of the 4-year old's mother said they also are left with questions.

“I don’t think any of us are doing too good," said the boy's grandmother, Angela Green, "and I think by [the shooting] happening so quickly and the way that it’s going to take us a long time.”

Green said detectives told family that found gunshot residue was also found on Messer's hands. Norfolk police have not confirmed the comment.